Are you self-aware? Do you understand your character –“the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual?” Are you in touch with your feelings- “an emotional state or reaction?” Do you trust your motives- “a reason for doing something, especially one that is hidden or not obvious?” Do you succumb to all your desires- “a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen?”
Do you trust your motives tied to your desires? If you act on those desires will your motives eventually hurt you or others? If you hurt someone, how will that make you feel? If you are getting what you want will you care? What do all your desires, motives, intentions, expectations, and actions, say about your character?
Can you be self-aware and hurt others in the process? Yes, but then what does that say about your character? What happens when you hurt others, but you are not aware that you are doing it? If someone else is hurt, is it ultimately your problem? Well, depends on your intentions, correct? If you meant to hurt others, then you have to ask yourself why? If you didn’t, then you probably wouldn’t stop and ask yourself why you would just continue to eat your ice cream cone.
If you are trying to help others, are your motives pure? Some psychologists say, they (human motives) can never be pure. I would like to believe Mother Theresa had pure motives. Humans always need gain from anything they do? Don’t they? I’ve heard it said, “That the best way to know if your motives are pure, is to do something for someone who can’t do anything in return.” But, by doing this, are you using that person to make yourself feel better? If you can answer “No” to the previous, question, then you are on the right path. If you answer “no” to the previous question, maybe you shouldn’t be doing something that doesn’t make you feel good, no?
I pride myself in my constant movement toward greater self-awareness on a daily basis. Seldom do I get pulled into intentions or actions that hurt others anymore for my personal gain. I mean, I do throw a jab every once in a while when arguing with my wife. 99% of the time I know I am doing it, but I also know shortly after the other 1% is let loose from my brain and my lips, that they are responses to a learned behavior, an acting out on something I was conditioned to do as a child- a survival technique.
Now, as a 42-year-old male, I am finally seeing that I need not act like a spoiled entitled brat to get what I want. You can get more bees with honey. Too bad all the bees are dying and the honey is so full of sugar that you have to avoid it. I use Stevia anyway. You know the stuff in the green packets.
There will always be room for non-sequiturs in America. If there weren’t politicians would tell the truth and dogs would eventually catch the squirrel. Wisdom would be something left to the man on his deathbed, wishing he would’ve lived his life differently. Funny thing is how many people you hear on their deathbed repeating the same thing. I think I will look for someone young and wise to listen to, maybe my 2-year-old daughter. She doesn’t have a care in the world, a past or future in her brain, only enough room for the present and the circuitry to ignite that gigantic smile on her face, the closest thing to expressing heaven on Earth.