Now Wonder You Were Afraid to Ask #4 – Paul Gilmartin – A Survivor Leaving No One Behind.

Paul with Herbert
Paul in 3rd Grade
Paul in 3rd Grade

I’ve known Paul Gilmartin for about four years now. He’s helped me a couple of times through some rough patches. He is probably one of the funniest, kindest and most honest people I know. I wanted to share his current project with all my friends because I believe he is supplying an amazing free resource which has the ability to help a lot of people begin the process of healing, especially those who are affected by a behavioral disorder, addiction or have been the victims of any type of sexually-related trauma.

Paul, or Paulie as I like to call him, was Born in Chicago. He has a long history in acting, which began when he majored in theater at Indiana University. He started doing standup comedy in 1987 and moved to LA in 1994, where did a TV show called Dinner and a Movie. This show ran from 1995 to 2011. In 2011, he launched a podcast, The Mental Illness Happy Hour. Paul writes on his blog that, “This show is geared towards anyone interested in or affected by depression, addiction and other mental challenges which are so prevalent in the creative arts.”

Paul told me, “He is an incest survivor who was abused by his mother. The incest was mostly emotional and the physical stuff was in a gray area, but there was a ton of it.” He also said, “I didn’t confront these truths until a few years ago.” The podcast is something that Paul is proudest of in his life and states his passion is, “Increasing the emotional literacy of our country and the world.”

I urge everyone to click on over to Paul’s Podcast and listen to the amazingly frank and candid interviews he has conducted with people from all over the artist spectrum.

Paul with Herbert
Paul with Herbert

Read the following questions and answers as Paul bears his soul. Also, please follow Paul on Twitter at @mentalpod and on Facebook:

What advice would you give the teenage you?

Your mom is not safe, your dad’s lack of interest in your life has nothing to do with you and the way you view women is not healthy you shouldn’t be afraid to get to know them beyond their sexuality.

If you were president and could enact any law outright, what would it be?

Emotional education beginning in pre-school. Teaching kids how to voice their feelings and understand boundaries.

What is the number one thing on your bucket list?

To go helicopter skiing in fresh powder with some good friends.

How do you think we can fix the racial divide in the United States?

By becoming friends with people who are from different cultures, backgrounds.

What is the most adventurous thing you ever did?

Climbed a frozen waterfall in Yosemite. Scary as fuck but exhilarating.

What has the greatest loss in your life been?

A healthy attachment to my parents in childhood. But then again if I had had that I wouldn’t be doing my podcast and feeling as useful.

What was the first album, cd, download you owned?

The three that I remember playing the shit out of when I was 7 or 8 were given to me by my cousin: Revolver (The Beatles), Meet the Beatles (The Beatles) and Cosmo’s Factor (Creedence Clearwater Revival). I feel so lucky to have been exposed to Revolver at such an early age. There was something about the melancholy songs on that album that really struck a chord with me. I suppose they expressed what I was feeling on an unconscious level, especially the song Eleanor Rigby.

What do you think is the meaning of life?

To give and receive love while walking thru fear.

What is one thing that you don’t know how to do, that you wish you did?

I wish I had a good singing voice.

What is your biggest turn on?

Non-judgment and compassion.

What is your favorite time period?

1964-1969. Society and music changed so drastically. For furniture and fashion, I think the year 1960 was pretty perfect.

Have you ever been arrested?

Once for underage drinking when I was 19.

Do you love your job? Why?

Yes, because it gives me a sense of purpose and that helps quiet my head.

Do you enjoy hugs?

Love giving and receiving them, of course depending on the person.

Are you curious about what goes on behind closed doors in other people’s houses?

Yes, that’s the gist of my podcast.

What do you think is the key to a healthy relationship?

Vulnerability, compassion, humor and communication.

Have you ever thought of killing yourself?


What do you think drives violence in this world?

Fear. Every negative emotion comes from fear.

What do you think is the biggest waste of money?

Trying to impress people.

What would you like to be remembered for?

Giving people the courage to talk about their struggles and to ask for help.

Paul with Ivy
Paul with Ivy

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