I am so excited to kick off this new series. Here is a sample of what’s to come.
The idea to interview people I know by letting them pick their own questions came to when I was looking through my Facebook friend’s list and realized how many amazing and talented people I know. So many of them are doing really great things in this world and I wanted a forum to share their passions and inspiration with others. I also love asking questions. I have always been a curious mind who is fascinated with what people think. So, I decided to create the series, “No Wonder You Were Afraid to Ask.” Personal interviews with people the whole world should really know.
The name for this series was derived from the 1969 (go figure) book, Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex, but Were Afraid to Ask. About ten years ago I was sitting in my bedroom, probably high, just staring at my books. Back before I was really reading them. I just liked to stare at all of them and think about how much I loved books, especially used ones. The yellow binding of this book really stood out from the other books on the shelf and triggered something in my conscious. All of a sudden this poem came to me.
Flash forward to the other day, I had a thought, that poem title would make a great title for this segment. A series of short bio sketches and interviews with my friends, which will not be censored at all, unless there are misspellings. I want people to be as truthful as possible. I am not sure what I am getting myself into. Please note, I am not responsible for what my friends do or say. I am just a channel for them to share their uniqueness with the world. Each interviewee will get to share their passions or current promotions with the world and then they will answer 10 to 20 questions from a list of 150+ questions that I sent out. This list will continually grow, and if you are reading this blog and want to ask a question, put it in the comments and it will be taken into consideration.
I have already sent the list out to about 40 people, so stay tuned every Tuesday to learn about some really amazing people. Everyone from Artists, actors, activists, and comedians to lawyers, teachers, volunteers and who knows what else! If you really like the interviews, please subscribe to my blog and you will get an update every week when the new interview is published.
So without further adieu, here are the questions I chose for myself. Stay tuned next week as I feature an amazing young artist from New York, who I have never met, but who I was connected with when she helped me find the owner of a lost folder full of money. You can read that story here.
1. What advice would you give the teenage you?
I would tell the teenage me to not listen to what other people say. Let him know he is enough. I would even tell him to develop faith in something greater than himself. You know all the cliche shit. I might say, get laid more and it really is the motion in the ocean Learn to dance. To get up every day and lead with love. And figure out a way to reduce plastic and oil consumption now.
2. What is one meal or food you could eat every day and not get tired of?
Veggie Grill nachos. Any nachos really, but they have to be vegan. It use to be a carnitas burrito, sushi or donuts. I can still get Vegan versions of all three.
3. Do you think war is necessary?
What is war doing that sitting down and talking out our problems couldn’t do, except for taking lots of innocent lives.
4. Two sentences to describe what the world would be like without Facebook?
At one point in the near future, we will probably ask, “What’s more important, the bible or Facebook? And at that point, it might be a tie. That’s how important it is. You’re reading this because of Facebook, right.”
5. Do you have any strange fears or phobias?
I used to be afraid of the dark, but I think this was directly related to this deep fear of dying I used to be plagued with. I know a lot of it has to do with controlling my environment, and when it’s dark you have a lot less control unless you are an owl or cat.
6. Have you ever thought of killing yourself?
I’ve actually made several attempts. It was a really dark time in my life. A lot of these attempts I contribute to drinking and drugs. I was in a car once with the motor running in a garage (the thing that saved me was the thought of my son not having a father), I took a bunch of pills once (Funny thing is they were not lethal at all), I also had a knife once – instead I started to stab my couch. Now, that I am sober, the thought rarely crosses my mind. Only recovering addicts will probably relate to this, but sometimes it feels like it would be easier to be dead than to do a simple task, like driving in L.A. traffic or paying bills. Not sure if anyone else will relate to that feeling. My heart truly goes out to all people suffering from depression who are considering this now. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Just know people care! We’re sorry if we are too egocentric to notice. We are also lost most of the time. I hope I take the time to acknowledge someone who is feeling down on the day they are thinking about doing this and that is enough to make them change their minds. Not sure how of that thought is narcissistic or hopeful. I am thinking the latter.
7. Name a kid’s movie or cartoon you wish your life could really be like?
I always thought the Jetsons were really cool. I like how they ordered instantaneous food. But we also had Richie Rich. Tough call. I also always wanted to try one of the big pieces of meat from the Flintstones intro. A lot of people reading this will not have any clue who the Jetsons or Richie Rich are.
8. What is the scariest thing about growing old?
I think it is best summed up in the David Lynch movie, The Straight Story, when the main character is asked this question and he replies, “Remembering when you are young.” I think I will struggle with the physical aging part of growing old. But, plastic surgery will not be an option. I will rely on my kindness to survive.
9. What is the scariest natural disaster? Why?
I’m secretly in love with natural disasters. Not so secret anymore. There is just something amazing and crazy about how alive Mother Earth is. She is a beautiful, dirty and wet organism. I would have to say, flash floods, because I don’t know how to swim. I don’t like the idea of drowning at all.
10. How often are you unsatisfied with the haircut you receive?
I think I am always dissatisfied, but that is what I get for going to Supercuts. The one thing I do know though, is that in a couple of weeks after the haircut, my hair will be the perfect length. I love my hair. I will miss it when it is gone. I look kind of mean with a shaved head. It’s the dark eyebrows.
11. Do you kill all bugs?
As a want-to-be Buddhist and lover of all sentient beings, I really try not to kill any bugs. I do make exceptions for roaches and the occasional ant mob. I really try to respect that every bug feels pain, regardless of what people think and that every bug has a life soul inside of it.
12. What would you like to be remembered for?
This is tough. I think I just don’t want to be forgotten. Still figuring out why that’s so important. So I challenge everyone to continue to pass on memories of their lost loved ones. That is how they will live forever. The following is a poem I wrote about this.
“On the Morning of My Death”
It hovered (indistinctly)
in the dimension
what just happened
that proceeds wind
the anticipation of force
In a space
of the area
an ants head
to the middle
of it’s body-
a neck of sorts
the liquid sound
fish skin- (ocean deep)
the fire of
the shape of sound
at a source
Poets understand —
on invisible strings,
of my death,
the morning after
come and go
(which becomes your (the reader’s) moment) —
or am I–
the last person
13. What is your biggest pet peeve?
People who have no respect for the environment or think that our natural resources are infinite.
Stay tuned for Tuesday!