This Inspirational Moment brought to you by Victor Pérez from Los Angeles, CA.
What has been the most difficult thing you’ve had to go through in your life.
The death of my father 15 years ago had a profound effect on me. I wasn’t prepared for how deeply I felt that loss. The last time I looked into my father’s eyes, I knew it was the last time I would be able to tell him how much I loved him and how much I appreciated his life and how he loved my mother. Now that he’s gone, I think of him often. I think about something he would say or something he would do. I think about my mom and how much she misses him and that part is always the most difficult—to see her alone and growing older without her love. That’s the deepest pain in this kind of a loss.
What did you learn from it that you could pass on to someone else?
Someone gave me really great advice when I was getting ready to fly out to my dad’s services. I was struggling with my own grief, my own loss, and I wanted to be able to be strong for my mother and my family. A wise friend gave me the most practical advice. He told me not to worry about being strong or courageous or anything for anyone else. He told me to just be a son. Be a son! That advice gave me so much freedom to feel, to hurt and grieve, and to draw strength from just being around my family and experience the loss we all were sharing at that moment. My dad died in the fall. The following Father’s Day I found myself depressed in bed. I was in such a deep despair that it looked like it was going to be a very emotionally difficult day. This was my first Father’s Day without my dad. I was a father myself to small boys at the time. All my little guys wanted to do was jump up on my bed and show me the things they made for me in school. At that moment, I understood the power of those words. Be a son. I needed to be a son in my grief, but at that moment, I also needed to be a father. I needed to move through, and beyond, my sadness to celebrate and enjoy the day with my family. It was such a powerful lesson.
What has been the Happiest Moment of your life?
I’m probably gonna get in all kinds of trouble over this one. The birth of my firstborn son, Cameron. Actually, I remember the birth of all my sons. But that day—the day I became a father was perhaps the happiest moment in my life, and remains, still today.
What is your Passion?
Changing the lives of others through fitness and healthy life choices. I love that I can influence the people around me and my clients to make positive changes and begin to take their health more seriously. Fitness and exercise changed my life. It improved my health. It gave me self-esteem and a better outlook on life. It improved my relationships because I became a better person to be around. I like seeing that change impact others that I’m able to influence. It really makes me smile.
What inspires you?
My family. Without a doubt! My wife, through her love and devotion—her dedication to our sons and our home. My sons inspire me every day. I see the hopefulness and the promise of a bright future in their eyes and I see them going out into the world, trying to figure out what their life will be and it reminds me that there is still a great deal of life and experiences out there for me to enjoy
What is your favorite Inspirational Quote?
It’s more of a scripture or a Bible verse that I try, TRY to live by. I’m not always successful, because, like most human beings, I’m a bit flawed—just a bit…
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18 (NIV)
How do you try to inspire others?
I think I try to inspire others by stirring up their confidence and providing encouragement and positive feedback all the time. I believe we all possess a winning spirit and the desire to do great things— to surpass our dreams, our image of what others expect of us. I’m really great at getting people to open up and share things with me that they perhaps haven’t really thought about in a very long while. I see that sparkle in their eyes or I hear the excitement in their voice as they describe something they’ve always dreamed of doing and I just begin to ask them “why?”—why can’t you still do that or go there or try that thing? I really enjoy seeing them begin to ask themselves those same questions and see that there is still time, there is still a yearning to make that dream happen. All it takes is the confidence, the belief in yourself, and someone to ask the hard questions.
One non-profit you support?
American Cancer Society because I’ve lost far too many people I love to cancer—my older brother and my father in the same year. I’m always inspired by the stories of survivors, people who have beat the odds and have been given a second or a third chance.
What is one easy thing you can do to change the world for good in the next 24 hours?
I don’t really think that’s even remotely possible So I’m gonna be silly— yet very serious and say, that if it were within my power to reverse the result of the last presidential election, that would be the first thing I would do to change the world.
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